Conventional wisdom holds that some children are ''born shy,'' destined for a lifetime of timidity and underachievement, or that they will magically outgrow their shyness as they mature. Bernardo Carducci, Ph.D. debunks these myths. He reveals that they are stuck in an approach/avoidance conflict that makes it difficult for them to warm up to new situations and often leaves them clinging to narrow comfort zones. He identifies the skills that allow children to take control of their anxieties and explains how parents can nurture these skills.