In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the
University of Washingto-- made a startling announcement:
Through scientific observation and mathematical
analysis, they could predict--with more than 90 percent
accuracy--whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The
only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a
failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman
teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie
Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now
the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research
facility, have put these ideas into practice. In "Ten
Lessons to Transform Your Marriage," the Gottmans share
this vital information so that couples can develop the
skills to turn their relationship problems around and
create strong, lasting unions. What emerged from the
Gottmans' collaboration and decades of research is a
body of advice that's based on two surprisingly simple
truths: Happily married couples behave like good
friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle,
positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten
couples who have learned to work through potentially
destructive problems--extramarital affairs, workaholism,
parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of
intimacy--and examine what they've done to improve
communication and get their marriages back on track.
Giving an insider's view of the Love Lab, the Gottmans
take the reader step-by-step through the couples'
conversations, before and after they are counseled. The
authors also provide an analysis of the couples'
interactions, identifying their core problems and
offering suggestions for resolving them. By "listening"
to the discussions in this way, you will learn to detect
the most common stumbling blocks of a relationship
and--most important--how to avoid them. Hundreds of
thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks
to the Gottmans' work. Whether you want to make a strong
relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that's headed
for disaster, "Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage"
is essential reading. From inside the famed Gottman
Institute, aka the "Love Lab" ten scientifically proven,
practical ways to strengthen your marriage "We don't
feel close anymore." "You never talk to me." "We only
have time for the kids." "All you do is work." "You
don't care about my dreams." Do you recognize yourself,
or your spouse, in any of these statements? If so, Dr.
John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman,
say you shouldn't be surprised. In fact, their decades
of scientific research have shown that most couples face
these and other serious problems--but what the Gottmans
have proven is that such difficulties don't have to lead
to a broken relationship, or even divorce. In "Ten
Lessons to Transform Your Marriage," the Gottmans
provide vital tools--scientifically based and
empirically verified--that you can use to regain
affection and romance lost through years of ineffective
communication. You'll strengthen your relationship and
make it the most fulfilling it can be. "From the
Hardcover edition." |
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