If you want to achieve something original
and meaningful with your life, you MUST learn to deal
with rejection and criticism.If you're an artist
of any kind your work will be rejected by editors,
curators and other gatekeepers. And each time you put it
in front of the public, you expose yourself to
criticism.
If you're an entrepreneur you face
rejection by (potential) customers, partners and
investors. Those same people won't hesitate to criticize
you if they are unhappy (justified or not).
If you're
chasing your dream job you'll receive your share of
rejection letters. And once you land the job, taking
flak when things go wrong is part of the deal.
If
you're an athlete or sports player it's a battle to get
on the team. And you'll hear about it from all sides -
your coach, your team-mates and (so-called) supporters -
if they think your performance isn't up to
scratch.
If you're a campaigner for change you face
inertia, resistance and hostility from everyone with an
investment in the status quo. No wonder most people
choose not to rock the boat.
Between them,
rejection and criticism can rob you of your
dream.Many people set out on their chosen path
full of hope and inspiration, only to turn back because
they couldn't deal with the emotional impact of crushing
rejections and vicious criticism.
If you want to
avoid joining the legions of also-rans, you'll need to
find practical, effective ways to deal with rejection
and criticism.
Anyone who says 'don't take it so
personally' doesn't understand what it's like when you
are hit by a major rejection or biting criticism.
At
least to begin with, it's almost impossible NOT to take
it personally (for very good psychological reasons). To
deal with rejection and criticism, you need to
acknowledge the pain - and find ways to bounce back from
the impact.
In short, you need to develop
resilience.
In
Resilience, Mark
McGuinness explains why your reactions to rejection and
criticism are completely understandable - and how to
deal with them effectively.
Through stories from his
own experience, as well as those of famous people who
faced rejection and criticism on the road to their
success, he will show you that you are far from alone in
suffering from rejection and criticism.
And he draws
on years of experience as a coach to give you practical
advice that has been road-tested with hundreds of people
facing similar challenges to you.
You will learn:
- Why rejection and criticism hurt so much
- Several ways you may be making rejection worse
(without realising it)
- How to keep going in spite of multiple rejections
- Why your inner critic is (potentially) your best
friend
- When to ignore the critics - and when to listen
- Whether (and how) to respond to insults and abuse
- Why success is harder than it looks - and how to
deal with it
This is not a theoretical
book - it's packed with practical tips and
techniques you can apply to your own challenges right
away.
Whether you're just setting out, in the middle
of your journey, or dealing with the unexpected
challenges of success,
Resilience will show you
how to keep moving forward.
Resilience
will take you a few hours to read; its lessons will help
you for the rest of your life.