Everyone is moulded and shaped by the circumstances of the family into which they were born. By the time we reach early adulthood most people feel that their basic character has been firmly established and that no major shifts will occur. This book, based on the personal experience of the author, shows that substantial real change can take place and that we all have the ability to consciously design and assemble the person we wish to be. There is the understanding that the cornerstone of happiness is a sense of self-worth and the confidence that this in turn engenders. There is the recognition of the strong, two-way link between mental and physical health. The suggestion is made that just as we exercise our bodies to stay fit, so we should also deliberately work on keeping our mental health in good shape. A range of options relating to how we act in our day to day lives and react to life's situations are presented in short, easy to follow, sections. The reader is guided through a range of options about the key issues we all face in life, from supporting ourselves financially, through relationships, love and sex, to staying healthy.The book looks at our religious and spiritual beliefs and encourages us to live in harmony with them. We are also encouraged to prepare for the death of those we love and for our own death. The emphasis is always on the reader's freedom to choose what they themselves believe to be best for them and what they want.