When we let go of the illusion of what love should be or should look like, then we let go of any expectations we have placed on the relationship. When we let go of the expectations, we let go of the suffering we create. In order to find peace in the relationship and within yourself, you first must understand why there is suffering, where it has manifested, how it was created and through changing the way we perceive love should be, you learn to love what is through compassion, kindness and acceptance. For in the acceptance you will see into the heart of your partner, connect deeply into each other and truly understand the way of love, and how you both choose to experience it. Buddha In The Bedroom has been written to assist you in ending the emotional and physical suffering we create in our relationships. "As a practicing Buddhist, Buddhist Educator and Buddhist Chaplin, I was a little hesitant to read" Buddha in the Bedroom" I thought WHAT But after reading the book I have to thank Mel for opening my eyes to a beautiful soft but confronting way to look at relationships. After 46 years of marriage, there are ways I can improve our relationship. I believe we do try too hard to make things work, be it our career, family and most of all relationships. We all play the"blame game" at times. The Four Noble Truths works in every other part of life,it make sense, now Mel has so nicely pointed it out, it can also work in the bedroom. I have now read the book twice today, and found more important points the second time around. I recommend "Buddha is The Bedroom" to become a part of every day life. I know as a Marriage Celebrant I will recommending it to me clients. Thank You Mel for a great book June Turner". With over 28 years experience as a Relationship & Intimacy Specialist, Love Alchemist and Ordained Minister. I have seen and heard it all, but there is one common factor in each relationship and that is we all want to connect, to feel loved and supported emotionally and physically, yet through our expectations we create suffering and it could be so easily avoided if we just learnt to look at our relationship with a different set of eyes and really learn to love each other. Buddha In The Bedroom delivers a new way of seeing the truth of what relationships are, what love really is and how to learn to let go of the illusions we have created so you can experience more joy, more love and more intimacy. Buddha In The Bedroom is an essential part of any relationship and is the recipe for success in creating a sustaining, love fulfilling life.